Extramarital Affair - A Marriage Cancer

An affair revealed is a marriage cancer and when not treated properly, it will lead to a marriage death (divorce). Therefore, if you wish to live happy as a couple, an immediate effort has to be made to solve this problem.

When the incident of extramarital affair is revealed, the trust between the couple disappears and the couple relationship turns to the worst and rage occurs. Likewise, an affair is destructive and is a marriage cancer. However, generally an affair is dealt rather lightly where in fact, it should be seriously treated as a deadly cancer.

Cancer is deadly. If it is severe, one would set back all the works and would put every effort to get cured. One would not resist the disease saying that it will be cured as time goes by. When the cancer is not treated properly and right away after it is found, it will be transferred to other organs and will eventually lead to one's death.

A well-treated cancer would stop the transfer, reduce it and eventually will completely cure it. However, when not properly treated, it might become worse and it will be too late for a proper treatment to be applied and eventually one will die. In some cases the development of cancer is such that it is already too late for any kind of treatment.

Patient's will is what matters the most in treating a cancer. Patient should have the will to be cured. With willingness, a patient will search for a best hospital, consult the right treatment and save no time, money and effort.

Now what about the Marriage Cancer - affair problem? In a couple relationship, when the affair is revealed, it is a death sentence. Sadly, not many people recognize this. Couple relation is dying because there is no willingness to get cured and there is no effort to solve the problem. This is why a marriage dies (divorce) because affair problem is transferred to other couple relation problems.

An affair problem needs to be solved otherwise, it will cause severe couple problem and in the end a divorce (couple death) will come. A divorced couple has a lot to say. They all have different stories. However, when you look deep in to their stories, it is easy to find that they have left the affair problem not treated. I have analyzed from my counselling the divorced, 90% of them had initially an affair problem not properly treated. To the outside world, the reason of a divorce varies but in most of the cases, an affair problem was the starting point.

A firm will to get cured is required and a proper treatment that suits each situation is needed. Rage and hurt is treated and couple and affair solution is designed. If not properly designed, a treatment or a solution will worsen the couple relation and will lead to divorce. With this willingness and once the treatment and solution is designed, time, cost and effort have to be invested.

As each cancer cases has different causes and development course, so is the affair cases. This is why a detailed analysis and diagnosis is compulsory. As there are stages in a body cancer, so is the affair problem. An affair problem should be dealt with just like the body cancer. A hospital has numerous services ranging from dental service to surgery. However, for cancer, a cancer center is set up. A marriage cancer cannot be treated in an office where every psychological problem is dealt with. A marriage cancer needs a specialized center.

This is because marriage cancer is totally different from other general counselling method, in terms of treatment and so forth. A body cancer cannot be treated in plastic surgery center. So is the affair problem. This is where an affair counselling specialist comes in. It is very difficult, almost impossible for a non-specialized psychological counselor to solve the affair problem. To note, there are NO affair counselling specialist in Korea which indicates that these cases are hard to be dealt with not to mention to be solved.