It is a shock of a life time when cheated but
it is necessary to think calmly about yourself before blaming the cheating
spouse. The act of cheating is the solely the misdeeds of the cheating.
However, one has to calm down to find out the
key reason for the affair and find a practical solution. If you start blaming
the cheating, this will bring about anger and rage which will make it
impossible to remain calm. It is why the cheated has to think and sustain
calmness to make a right judgement with a cool head which is for the benefit of
the cheated alone.
In case of the couple problem, and that you had
been sexless, having done nothing about this matter can be a cause of
infidelity of the spouse. If there had been frequent fights, than it would be
wise to think that the couple were lacking true understanding and care. An
affair means that your partner has felt another more attractive and felt happy
having sex. In such case, one would have to ask why one was not able to have a
happy sex life together with the partner.
If you are ignorant about sex, than you need to
learn about it and find a proper way to solve this problem. As such, when
placed in trouble because of the affair problem, it is so very natural that the
cheated is in anger, rage and despair. However, do take a time to consider what
you have done to the cheating partner before. Yes, you have dedicated yourself
in the relationship and tried your best.
May be it was done in a wrong way as you can
see what happened. Take it a time and think about the relationship again. Blaming
the cheating spouse, and expressing the feelings of the cheated rather than
trying to understand the partner, will only bring a deeper and serious trouble
and hurt for both the couple. This will only make the matters worse. Thinking
calmly with objective eye about your past relationship and about yourself and
the cheating partner, will give you a glimpse of what changes have to be made
and will provide you a willingness to solve the problem.
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