Are you living with your pains?

We have seen some unhappy couples as their problem gets even more serious because of the pain in their mind. When the pain seems serious, couple problem appears to be more evident. Any pain from the past, it may be from childhood or from adulthood or from in between or from present, it is reflected to couple problem.

- sexual harrassment, rape

- parent’s divorced or one parent cheating the other

- family violence or abuse

- experience as prostitute

- divorce from spouse's extramarital affair

- spouse's extramarital affair found after divorce

If one of these falls upon you, you are already in psychological hurt whether or not you are aware of it and it is quite impossible that you carry on a normal couple life. In most of the cases, you don't recognize it as hurt and think that it would not matter at all. However, this is very wrong. It is affecting you and your spouse and continuous trouble might occur.

If you are hurt as in the cases above or from other happenings, and if you have not received psychological treatment, you and your spouse's life might become desolate as it will play as a major reason for unhappy life. At present, there seems to be no problem but it is likely that you might be facing troubles in the future regardless of being married or not. Living with pains is like living with a grenade. What is in the past cannot be redone and it should not be forgotten. This is not something to hide or to be ashamed of. Pains remaining within your sub-consciousness have to be treated. This is a road to your happiness and also to your children and your family.

What is most important is to live a happy life from now on, not only for you but for all. Your spouse has a right to be happy too. Everyone can be happy.