Rage and Anger - The Difference

Through numerous sessions over the years, we have found that most of my clients do not differentiate rage from anger. Obviously they look quite the same, but they are clearly different.

When you show your anger, you attack the anger provider and your feelings of pain is relieved somewhat. Rage on the other hand, attacks the other but in turn you are attacked too. The bigger the rage, your hurt and pain grows within you.

Hwa-Byung (depressed and unexpressed anger usually shown typically in oriental society) induces severe depression and other mental diseases. Anger results from one's own pressed or depressed feelings whereas rage results from others and results in sense of abuse and psychological hurt. Thus rage only hurts the cheated more by attacking the faults of the other.

When you find your spouse cheating on you, you might achieve the goal of making your spouse hurt and burdened by blaming his/her faults and expressing your pain and betrayal.

However, rage also attacks your mind and your hurt and pain will become larger. In affair counseling, it is most important that psychological rage be treated rather than emotional anger. Rage is the very first step to be treated so that a client can control, ease or eliminate rage. Only after that, a client will find psychological stability, the problem will no longer get worse and proper solution can be ready. When extramarital affair is dealt with rage still going on, it will cause deeper and wider hurt and tremendous pain will occur. Unfortunately this phenomenon is found in many other psychological counseling where new rage occurs during the series of psychological treatment. Often, one rage might be treated but still another will come up.

Rage from affair MUST be immediately removed. One might argue how this can be possible. However, as an infidelity counseling specialist and from the experiences we have, rage treatment is the easiest process in an affair solution. This is why we sincerely recommend those in rage be at least be treated with rage solution. It will relieve your mind and comfort you and you will then be ready to move on.