The Cheating Does Not Know How Much The Cheated Is Hurt

One of the most difficult thing for the cheated is the difference in understanding the hurt. In other words, the cheating husband does not know how much he has hurt his wife. The cheating wife does not know how much she has hurt her husband. This is why the betrayed falls into serious mental hurts.

If the cheating would actually feel the hurt the cheated has felt, he/she would never commit adultery again. Well, here is the thing. Pinch your partner. The partner will scream out of pain. However, you would not actually feel the pain. You would only guess from the actions and expression of the other. Your partner explains how much it hurts. But you can never feel the actual pain your partner felt.  

Thus the problem arises as the two have different understanding of the pain. Another problem is that understanding this difference is impossible. Thus, fight, violence, separation or divorce comes as the two partners insists their own opinion.

A wife is hugely hurt from the husband’s affair. A husband is under extreme stress. Man and Woman feel differently in affair problems because they have different psychology. This is why it is almost impossible to understand each other. If the pincher can feel the pain of the pinched, then he/she will apologize and will never pinch again.

On the contrary, the pinched, after having understood that the partner is not able to feel the pain, should try to make the partner to feel the pain and realize it. The core in solving the affair problem is the mutual understanding of the differences in man and woman.