Wife Avoids Having Sex

Couples have sex. It is their ways of mutual communication and therefore is very important. We have seem many male clients who were having troubles and conflicts because their partners avoid or even refuse to have sex with them.

For man, being in such situation brings self-disrespect and anger as they feel that they are rejected. Of course, these feelings will function as a trigger of couple problem. The female partners at first will feel sorry but as time goes by, they tend to give up the situation as they do not know what to do.

Then, why do the female partners, or wives avoid sex? There can be various reasons but psychological phase should be considered seriously.

First of all, in sex, women regards psychological feeling more important than that of the physical. When the husband takes self-oriented attitude without considering the wife, the wife naturally shuns having sex as this brings self-despise and sense of disconnection for them.

Secondly, when there are conflicts in couple life, it is natural that they be drifted apart. This is frequently shown when the first baby arrives. Wives feel psychological and physical stress with the baby and when the care and help from the husband is not there, she will be hurt and it gets deeper.

Third example can be found in the wife’s child life. Being brought up in an unexpected or destructive family, with the father as an oppressive figure, the wife might be oppressing the sex desire as the womanhood had been conceived negative.

The next case can be found from appropriate sex related incident in childhood.
According to a report (Korean one) around 90% of child sex abuse was committed by next of kin especially by step or biological father. These hurts are too big to be shared and induced denial in sexuality.

People get married and they share and confirm their love with their body and mid. Husbands need to think of mental side for wives. If she is having mental hurts, they should be shared and cared after together. Marriage is a long journey based upon rust as life companion, filling up what is missing for each other.