Paraphilia (Abnormal Sex Desire) of The Cheated - Dangerous and Serious

During my session, we tell our clients that abnormal desire for sex in the cheated is a dangerous and serious problem. Disregarding this might bring a serious problem in life in the future. Paraphilia is an abnormal sex desire mainly caused by the shock from extramarital affair. Rage comes from an affair shock together with the sense of betrayal. As an affair results from the sex problem, body and mind is already caught in an abnormal sex desire. The stress, shock and the rage and all of these are so enormous that one does not recognize this disorder. Desire for sex increases dramatically without one's noticing due to senses of disappointment, rage, jealousy, competition and revenge etc.

This disorder shows differently in each case. Some would experience it right after exposure, others during the severe conflict and pain or even after all the problem is solved (including a divorce).

Symptoms of paraphilia is.
- Continuous request for sex. Doubt and rage occurs when sex is denied.
  Feels relieved when sex is done.
- Obsessed with sex
- Changes in sexual partner as a revenge.
- Excessive masturbation and sense of relief after it.
- Seeking a sex partner and others.

This symptoms are common in both the husbands and wives. The remedy should be mental and psychological. However, in most of the cases, solutions are found sexually which will bring more problems. For those divorced because of espousal betrayal, these symptoms are common. This also is due to the hurt and psychological pain thus this be treated accordingly.

The problem here is that having sex seems to bring happiness but it will prove to be not enough and will require more sexual relationship. In fact, sex will become no longer pleasing and happiness and pleasure will be depleted and the person involved would become more and more desolate. Now, what is the right treatment?

It requires psychological hurt treatment. Rage, sense of betrayal, pride and self-esteem issues, all of these have to be treated. Only then a calm mind and true pleasure and happiness will come.

Is your spouse hurt because of your betrayal? Or is it the opposite case? You should understand that psychological hurt and paraphilia is in order and that they need to be treated. Paraphilia is not to be disregarded. Psychological hurt is critical. They need to be treated seriously.