I always ask the betrayed husband to come to
the office alone to analyze the situation and to find out what changes the
husband needs to make. Only after this, as counseling progresses, wife's change
is in order. In this way, couple reunion and couple happiness is possible.
"I was speechless when my wife said that I
had no right to blame her. I had never seen her so firm. I was more shocked by
her words than by her having sex with another man. Yes, I had a lot of work
after the promotion at work and after the marriage, I had not much interest in
my wife's life. She told me that I had no regard to her existence. I didn't
realize this. I really do not want to miss her again." These are the most
typical words from a betrayed husband. In such cases, husband has to make a
little change first so that mutual changes and reunion can come. As for this
couple, they are in their honeymoon.
Why would a husband come to an affair
counselor? That is because he wants to be happy again with his wife although
she had betrayed him. In such cases, it is meaningless to think, judge and to
act all by oneself. Couple alone cannot solve their problem. Mistaken changes
in the husband will only bring a mislead relation.
In such case, couple need to change according
to their situation through counselling. Wife would change during the
counselling process. In addition, hurt of mind, doubt, rage and sense of
betrayal has to be changed in to mutual love.
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