A man's mind and a woman's mind

I dare say “Men do not have mind like women do”.

Other counselors, professors and others in the academic field do not agree to this statement. This is because there are no thesis or published book that mention this and it is true that this statement itself is very unfamiliar and evokes rejection.

By adapting this hypothesis that “Men do not have mind like women do”, we found the problems of affair was solved immediately. Then we understood that this hypothesis was indeed very important.

Hypothesis of Affair Psychology.

When attracted to a woman, a man’s body (sexual instinct) moves first followed by his idea. When attracted to a men, a woman’s mind moves first followed by her body (sexual instinct). This indicates that a man possesses an idea and not mind and a woman mind and not idea. Therefore, a man is in love with his whole being when his idea is formed to suit his female partner. A woman is in love when mind and body is accompanied together.

A man’s sexual instinct activates the moment he sees a woman. Therefore, a man can notify everything that he wants to find in a woman instantly. One second is enough for him to recognize the attractiveness. This is the activated “Sexual Instinct” This is found in every man. It is needless to mention male hormones or other pathological researches. A man is inborn with this ability. This is a man’s basic instinct.

Once attracted to a woman, his sexual instinct is developed and he would make effort to attract her. This is the dating period. The first step would be having little chats, praises, care and consolation. Then comes coffee, dinner, drinks, movies and drives. These are the method that man uses so as to fulfill his future sexual instinct. Thus comes the passion out of sexual instinct.

The word “I love you” is mistaken feeling that has been aroused from man’s sexual instinct. When a man says “I love you” it means that he is immerged in his passion fom sexual instinct. When a man is immerged in passion he feels happiness and joy. This will make him to adjust his life standard (ideas) to the woman. This idea is not found in a woman.

A man’s idea

Ideas of rational reasoning, life value, responsibility, power, social success, happiness, business, profession, love, compassion, woman, family, children and other idea.

The moment a man forms an idea is when the responsibility comes from marriage. Therefore, a man’s idea whose starting point was passion from sexual instinct brings idea with the event of marriage.

In conclusion there is no mind for man. Man do not possess mind. Man has no mind. This means having sex according to his sexual instinct is differentiated from idea. Therefor sex is possible without love. Upon sexual instinct, it is possible for a man to have sex with multiple partners. This indicates that for a man to be happy with a woman depends on how this sexual instinct is controlled and managed. This is why a woman has to know a man’s psychology.

It is not always that a man’s sexual instinct is activated. Of course, a man’s sexual instinct might occur the moment he sees an attractive woman from her appearance, body figure and ambiance. However, this does not always involve sex as they are controlled by one’s reasoning.

On the contrary, a damaged male idea or an aggressive stress will activate sexual instinct uncontrollably to its extent. This is the point where a husband’s extramarital sexual intercourse comes. Also once the uncontrolled sexual instinct was fulfilled, this situation will repeat itself. This is why a husband’s affair becomes as close as a sex addict.

For all this to be solved, it is important that the man’s damaged idea has to be treated and that he should become strong enough to find his reasoning to resist stress. In addition, a man does not have hurt of the mind. He has hurt of the idea. This is very different from each other. Other than a big shock, incident or embedded habit, it is not easy for a man to have a hurt idea. Therefore, if the man has a damaged idea, which is a very rare case, this past incident or habit has to be found and has to be treated. Man does not have mind but he has feelings. The problem is that this feelings are mistaken as mind. Woman has a mind with feelings but man has idea with feelings. That is why man and woman have different feelings for a same incident or phenomenon.

All this indicates that it is wrong to involve mind therapy for a man who does not have a mind at all. Woman needs mind therapy whereas man need idea therapy. This is why mind therapy shows its effect on woman and very rarely on man. This is why most of affair problem (sex problem) is not solved properly. In other words, till now, man’s feelings were mistaken as his mind which brings failed counselling. Therefore, in a couple related counseling (affair and sex) the core of the counseling is in the woman’s mind and man’s idea.

Man does not possess a mind. He mistakes his feelings as mind.

Therefore, a man mistakes his passion from his sexual instinct as his love.