Therapy for couples' happiness in affair counseling

In the case of affair, the cheated has to be treated about his or her anger. Any therapy aiming for couples’ happiness only can be successful after treating with that anger.  

With anger still going on, Couple Counselling is meaningless. As anger therapy goes on, the client is still willing and passionate for the future and desiring for happiness and at this point, counseling gearing toward happiness can be introduced. Also, couples’ happiness therapy is applied to those with sex and other couple problems too.

If you do want to live happily, a therapy for happiness is mandatory. This is a way not only to solve affair problems but also sex and other problems. This is a course for the client to lead a happy life regardless of getting a divorce or staying married.

There are three steps in couples’ happiness therapy. Each step can be followed step by step and the time and the amount of effort depend on whether the therapy is applied to one spouse or both the couple. When neither one of them want to be advised then it is useless for him/her to come to the session. Only those who want to come to the session is welcomed.

1st step: Change is in yourself

- Make a change in yourself to have joy and happiness
- Understand the psychology of husband and wife, couple and sex problems
- Setting misunderstood (distorted) idea right, find solution for the problems
- Establish self-identity, confidence, set changed idea of couple and sex relation , making happiness.

2nd step: Change in the your spouse

- For the clients who come together with the spouse, this step is done together with the former step
- Advise and find methods to change client’s spouse to go along (suit) with the client’s happiness.
- Make the spouse understand through solutions for general issues for couples, sex and other problems.

3rd step: Couples’ happiness

- After the client and the spouse are changed, counsel on how to maintain and develop couples’ happiness, Importance of the couples’ happiness, how to turn affair problem into a chance, mutual understanding and care, re-finding love and affection, find new joy and happiness.

It is necessary that the clients need to find themselves again and view affair of their spouses as a chance to be happier. The couple can be happier through the rest of their life with their renewed love and affection and re-found sense of happiness within them. And they can be maintained and developed.

One way to be happy is that it should be desired and yearned after their anger is all treated. It should be in their conviction. At this point, it is imperative to acknowledge that the affair of a spouse is not the cause of couple problem but the result of couple problem.

Therefore, it is important that both the couple need to know that both of them have to make efforts to make changes within themselves first. Here, the couple problem is not one sided. Couple problem results from mutual ignorance that needs to be changed. These habits have to be analyzed and changed.

In summary, in order to be happy, both the couple should not live as they did before still keeping the old habits and performing old behaviors. Both the husband and wife have to make changes and should not enforce the partner to follow the other.

Once again, this therapy is a must if the couple wish to be happy together. This therapy provide solution to the couple problems including affair problem.