Affair Problem Solution Aims Happiness

I always make it a point that the target of affair solution Is happiness. Affair counselling should not be considered as a therapy for anger or trauma or sex problems for couple. This is because the affair problem is not simple. It involves both the husband and wife and family relations. The affair brings mixed problems of all these and will bring massive changes in their lives.

After innumerable sessions, I have come to realization that the target of an affair problem should be either the individual happiness or couple happiness. Otherwise, this problem cannot be solved.

Therefore, I set priority on the happiness of the client which may seem to be a little bit different from other counseling session. There has been suffering from spousal affair but when this is settled and if the couple’s happiness is present, then the couple should seek the happiness together as a couple.

On the other hand, even after such problems are solved and the couple is united, if they don’t seem to be happy together as a couple, then the following session will focus on individual happiness of each one so that the client will be able to make a right decision for his/her own future.

For other cases, I have seen some clients who have dedicated deeply their lives to their spouses and to their family with such humility. It is important the couple should be happy together and the husband and wife need to be equally happy with mutual respect. Affair problem is solved, anger management therapy is done, all the other problems are all solved too. But if the client is not happy, how can the spouse and the family be happy? In this case, it is likely that the affair problem can occur again at any time.

The most important thing for the clients is to find their own happiness. This does not mean that everything has gone back to normal just like before and nothing has changed. Then it will bring back the past habits and in the end bring up the same problem again. We should never forget that the target of an affair solution is a client’s happiness.