When affair counseling turns to divorce counseling

The target of an affair problem solution is the Happiness for couple. Without the sense of happiness between the couple, it cannot be said that the affair issues is completely resolved. Therefore, even though it is not the rult for Happiness Research Inc., we do not intend to proceed the session for divorce. Divorce is a grave matter, a turning point for the couple, children and the family and if not dealt carefully, everyone can be unhappy. Divorce is not the only solution for a couple’s problem.

However, to my regret, there are some rare cases which I have to turn affair cases to divorce cases. During the course of affair counseling, I have no choice but to judge that the couple happiness is absolutely impossible and therefore I need to turn the session towards divorce. In such cases, it is expected that even if the couple live together, the rest of the family is likely to remain unhappy.

Thus, a divorce counseling becomes a counselling session for searching happiness for the couple and the whole family. I have to make much analysis, speculations, confirmation and observation before making such an important decision so as to avoid from making the family unhappy.

Such cases involves
- Serious personality disorder or violence is found in the cheater and the cheater refuses to be changed
- Cheater shows addictions-alcohol, drug, sex and other- and refuses to be treated
- Cheater repeats violence including child abuse or shows tendency but refuses to be treated
- Abnormal sex behavior including incest, sadism and masochism and others
- Both the couple refuses serious mental disorder
- Uncontrollable external circumstances that can affect the relationship

In affair problem, the target of the solution is the happiness. Therefore, I always analyze whether the couple can be happy together or not. However, I do not set divorce as target before making analysis on the possibility of couple getting back together. If the client’s target is divorce, the client has to go to the divorce lawyer and with the help of the lawyer, the client has to come and sit in the “process of divorce session” or “how to be happy after divorce session. Once again the client should put his/her happiness above anything else. Without happiness, an affair solution is far from being solved.