Sexless is already a couple's problem

Recently we had clients who wanted to have counseling because they were sexless. We want to show you how sexless couple can have a serious problem.

They were on their second marriage. The wife was in love with this man and got married to him after her divorce. However, her second husband had an affair and the wife in turn had an affair as well. They had to go over whose fault it was and had difficult times. They had come to the session thinking that they wanted no more divorce in their lives. The husband said that he was sexless with his ex-wife. He was having an affair with the present wife when he got divorced. She was the adulteress. He had no regret in divorcing the ex-wife. The wife said that she was sexless with her ex-husband. She was having an affair with the present husband when she got divorced. He was the adulterer. She had no choice but to get divorced after the relation was revealed. Thus, the adulterer and the adulteress, passionately enjoying sex, got married with each other.

However, the problem took place after a year in their marriage. They became sexless again. Soon enough the husband cheated followed by the wife. Sexless results in extramarital affair, divorce, re-marriage, sexless again and affair again. The vicious cycle continues. This is nothing but so natural, something that can be predicted so easily. An extramarital affair tend to repeat itself when the problem is not solved completely and properly.

In this clients' case, they had affairs because they were sexless. However, the reason why they were sexless was not found and solved. This lead to repeated affairs. Furthermore, they had not tried to solve the sexless situation. Instead, they resorted to extramarital affair. However passionate their sex might have been as affair partners before married, they may as well become sexless couples again.

In addition, another extramarital affair was the only solution they knew to solve the problem. Sexless not only brings serious couple problems but also provides a reason for extramarital affairs. The ultimate problem is that the former couple had not tried to find the cause or the solution to this. They had no idea how dangerous sexless is between couple. Are all the couples who do not seem to have problems and look comfortable, okay?

According to a research, almost 90% of the couple are sexless in reality. This is because sex with no enjoyment and out of sense of duty is also regarded as sexless as well. In other words almost 90% of the couples are at the risk of affair and divorce.

What is it like in your case? Are you enjoying sex with your spouse? Aren't you doing it out of duty? Aren't you almost no-sex? Or, aren't you believing that this would never happen to your couple? You should understand that this might be a big mistake. Affair and divorce does not happen out of the blue. It has already shown symptoms when couple sex becomes dull. You may say this is not true but the truth of the fact is, it is so easy to find how problem in couple sex has evolved in to affair problem.

This is why couple sex is so much important. If you do not want to regret after things happen and if you feel that your couple sex is troubling you, you need to find the cause and the solution to it. This is the only way to prevent affair, divorce and other couple problems.