Trusting And Following The Therapy

It is surprising to find that there are quite a number of clients who themselves are counselors themselves with massive knowledge of psychology and counselling method. We get some advices from these clients. These clients themselves study this field because they have strong desire to solve and understand their problems. These clients tend to be positive about counseling itself and are active in solving their own problems.

However, problems rises to other clients who in fact have a lot of advisors, some with experience or knowledge of psychology or counseling, tend to listen to their advisors instead of the counselor. They think our counseling method is not suitable for them or that they do not think it is possible for us to solve their problem in a given time. These clients want the counseling to be processed in a way that they want or as the advisors around them have proposed.

However, this is just demanding the counselor to listen and follow their own way. The solution to an affair is very delicate and has to be treated carefully according to each couple and sometimes the solution method seem to be something that the client has never imagined or thought of before. At this point it is important for the client to have trust in the counselor and follow his ways. The directions given are very specific.

On the contrary, if the client proposes his or her own way, does not trust the counselor’s method or ways, has negative feelings against the proposed ways and stop the session at his or her will, the problem will never be solved. When this happens, to our regrets, the client blames and points their fingers at the counselor without realizing the problem from the client him/herself or from the so called advisors around them. They tend to feel what they know and study is the one and only right thing.

Once again the client has to trust the counsellor and follow what has been given and make effort. The methods and ways are given rather specifically and all the client has to do is try to follow them.

What matters the most is to define the right solution to the problem for each case followed by the problems that can rise and give directions to cope with the situation problem. It is the counselor’s job to predict the situation and to encourage the client to make effort and continue it in the midst of trial. One session of counselling giving a rough direction will never ever solve the affair problem. The affair counselor has to check and be a mentor in solving the problem.