Are You Worried That Your Husband Is Not Demanding Sex With You?

When the husband does not ask for sex, the wife becomes worried.

May be
- he has another woman
- he is not satisfied with me
- he has functional problems
- he feels old and impotent
- he feels less of himself

Whatever the wife thinks, the husband usually does not speak out. Why worries? The wives tend to think mentioning sex is not decent. They worry that they might appear horny. But do you know that it is because of this very thought that husbands do not have sex with their wives. For them sex is labor a hard work and is not pleasing at all.

At the time that he feels troubled about sex and in addition the wife do not speak about this and even she seems to be OK. Well, the husband thinks that they do not need sex at all. Simply put, the husband does not know about what the wife thinks because she does not tell him. May be you can write to him if it is difficult to speak out. In addition, you let him know what you feel and afterwards, you have sex but it is not pleasurable. What will you do then?

You see, having sex is not the problem here when you do not know how to enjoy sex. Sex should be enjoyed and it should be expressed. Does it seem complicated and shameful? If so, you are not ready yet. If you really feel that this problem has to be solved, do contact us through e-mail.

Wife Avoids Having Sex

Couples have sex. It is their ways of mutual communication and therefore is very important. We have seem many male clients who were having troubles and conflicts because their partners avoid or even refuse to have sex with them.

For man, being in such situation brings self-disrespect and anger as they feel that they are rejected. Of course, these feelings will function as a trigger of couple problem. The female partners at first will feel sorry but as time goes by, they tend to give up the situation as they do not know what to do.

Then, why do the female partners, or wives avoid sex? There can be various reasons but psychological phase should be considered seriously.

First of all, in sex, women regards psychological feeling more important than that of the physical. When the husband takes self-oriented attitude without considering the wife, the wife naturally shuns having sex as this brings self-despise and sense of disconnection for them.

Secondly, when there are conflicts in couple life, it is natural that they be drifted apart. This is frequently shown when the first baby arrives. Wives feel psychological and physical stress with the baby and when the care and help from the husband is not there, she will be hurt and it gets deeper.

Third example can be found in the wife’s child life. Being brought up in an unexpected or destructive family, with the father as an oppressive figure, the wife might be oppressing the sex desire as the womanhood had been conceived negative.

The next case can be found from appropriate sex related incident in childhood.
According to a report (Korean one) around 90% of child sex abuse was committed by next of kin especially by step or biological father. These hurts are too big to be shared and induced denial in sexuality.

People get married and they share and confirm their love with their body and mid. Husbands need to think of mental side for wives. If she is having mental hurts, they should be shared and cared after together. Marriage is a long journey based upon rust as life companion, filling up what is missing for each other.

Difference In the Idea Of Sex Brings Couple Problem

Sex related troubles are something that one cannot easily open up even to one’s own partner. However, as sex is one of the most important part in a couple life, its importance should not be neglected.

If the couple possess similar idea of sex, there will be no sex problem regardless of being sexless or not. They would live happily with smooth conversation going on. The trouble happens when it comes to a couple with different idea about sex.
One wants to enjoy while the other doesn’t. One is obsessed with having sex while the other avoids it. One wants swapping or threesome while the other wants only couple sex. One wants to have a specific ways in having sex while the other refuses it. One enjoys being a little pervert while the other hates it. One has a strong desire while the other has almost none. These are some of the differences in couple sex ideas.

The problem here is that it is very likely that these couple will be faced with pain and troubles. Then, is there any way to solve these problems? Well, simply share and understand each other through which the couple will find a happy sex. Problem always rises by demanding and wanting to make the other understand one’s own idea. Sometimes, not mentioning can cause further troubles. Do not forget, difference in idea will cause trouble. It is not easy to talk about these things but as always, care and understanding is the key in solving problems.

Through mutual understanding and controlling of different sex ideas, is a proper couple sex possible. It should be noted that most of the couple problems roots from couple sex problem.

Do Not Hesitate For Sex Therapy

Without any effort, how can a couple sex be enjoyable or happy? Do you think that your partner will make efforts for you? Don’t be a fool! No partner will make effort for you. If there has been such efforts, there would not be any sex related trouble there. If you feel that there is a trouble, your partner also feels the same way. If you really need to talk to understand this between the couple, well, maybe you are not much interested in each other.

Do you feel ashamed to bring up the issue all because you are a woman and that you will be blamed for the current situation? Or are you afraid that your pride will be hurt by bringing up the issue and that you might be belittled because of your ignorance?

What is a couple sex? It is for the happiness an enjoyment of the couple so that they can spend all their lives together. If you find a problem in it, it means that you want to find a solution. If you have any sex related problem, it is important that you know what the solutions are. It should always be noted that most of the couple problems rise from minor sex troubles. Are you having an affair problem because you are cheated or you are cheating? Have you given up having sex with your true partner while it is possible?

If you are hesitating even though you feel there is problem, think about your courage before blaming your partner. It is dangerous to point the finger to one of the couple while couple problem involves both the partner. Affair problems in fact starts from small sex troubles most of the time.

What are the efforts that you have made? A lot of my clients say that they have:

1. researched and looked in to a lot of cases and have applied these method
2. got advices from people around and put them into practice.
3. devoted in the couple sex itself.

Of course there are some who say that they have not done anything specific.

In the first case, information is information and the cases only apply to each case.
Other cases can never be same as yours. Do you think that other couples have same physical details or ideas about sex? Less information is more. Misleading information do more harm than good. In addition, have you shared the information with your partner?

In the second case, your acquaintances are not sex and couple experts, are they? They are no better than yourself. You are just appealing your hardships but it will not provide you a solution to your problems. May be you are avoiding your problem. This definitely is not an effort to find a solution to your problem.

The third case, you were trying very hard on something that has not worked before and that will not work in the future. Why continue sex practice that already is a problem itself? This will only make the problem to become larger and bigger. It will only make matters worse.

So, if you are having a sex related problem with your partner, just send us an e-mail.

Couple sex is not something that can be understood. It is a practical and real thing. Making ineffective effort will only make the matters worse and will only waste your time and energy. For a true solution, find out what the real problem is. Than what to do can be decided later. It doesn’t matter if you are a husband or a wife.

Wife Trouble With Delusional Sex Act

When a husband cheats on his wife, she becomes troubled as she sees delusions of her husband having sex with the adulteress.

She tends to
- see delusional scene every time she has sex with her husband
- refuses sex as this delusion makes her suffer
- require sex out of jealousy
- require sex every time she sees delusion

All of these are big problems.
1. Wife suffers from delusion every time she has sex with her husband.

She feels sexually strong and feels orgasm multiple times. However, this orgasm is from the jealousy towards the adulteress. It seems that she is satisfied with the sex but she actually feels emptiness every time and the delusion does not go away. This is a case where the wife feels inferior to the adulteress. If this continues it is highly likely that the wife will commit herself in counter-cheating

2. Wife refuses sex request from the husband but in turn request sex to her husband.

The fact that she is refusing sex to her husband in fact means that she still has feelings for him. However the trouble lies that the husband feels neglected and belittled which will provoke him to continue his affair and will eventually let eh wife become an adulteress of another man. In such cases, a husband will not be able to his life with his wife. At first he will play along having sex with her but as time goes on, he will refuse sex and as this continues, the wife will become at the extreme, hysterical and even despise herself. This will either lead to self-hatred, delusional jealousy, depression or bipolar syndrome.

Women & Sexuality

Men show their passion towards women before marriage and during the honeymoon period. This all changes after marriage and after the children are born. Wives show strong motherly instinct and neglects their womanhood and they protect their husbands and children. After all that they had done for so many years, wives and mothers feel despair when they find out that their husbands have cheated on them and when they see their children growing in unexpected ways.

They feel selflessness and lose confidence and pride. They find themselves old, worthless and do not feel women in them. In depression, they sometimes choose the extreme and destroy themselves.

However, it is never too late. A woman in her eighties is still a woman. Sometimes you see a man who is woman-like, and he seems awkward. Think of the other way. A manly woman is not attractive nor masculine.

Mysteriously, our body activates hormone and makes a woman voice out and act in a ladylike manner. This is not manipulated and is naturally done. It is inside every woman. Who would not love an adorable woman and to add if she possesses a sexual ability?

Women commonly says, “How could he love me, we been together for decades. He must love a new woman” True, men have interest in women regardless of their age. There is one thing however that appearance is not what matters to be a woman again. It is to take the energy out from your body within and from this energy, she is able to create energy and confidence. Some people looks happy and make others happy even though they possess painful memories or even though they have no special abilities. We envy these people.

Sex Addiction and Excessive Sex Desire

Excessive sex desire is one of the sex related problems. Sex addictions involves uncontrollable obsession of sex which is caused by psychological uneasiness and stress that can be only solved through having sex or releasing sex desire. The addiction of course has the tendency to repeat itself and it is a matter of instinct.

Some people think that having sex several times a day means sex addiction. However, frequencies or time period of activities related to sex has nothing to do with sex addiction. Rather they are related to excessive sexual desire.

Severe excessive sexual desire can be treated with hormone treatment together with proper understanding of sex and amending the sex energy in both the body and psychological ways.

However, sex addiction is a totally different issue. When sex desires occur, instant uneasiness arouses. For women, they feel psychological irritation whereas men, stress. They feel obsessed to have sex to be relieved from these feelings and their instinct leads them to have sex with whoever they can.

In fact, it is a disease. In the initial stage of sex addiction, the addicted do feel guilty and remorse and even swear not to do it again. However, as they repeat themselves, they start to build up justification to find ways to release their psychological problems by having sex. The problem here is that the sex addicted finds sex as the one and only way to relieve their stress and problem.

One thing very particular with sex addiction is that it is easy for a spouse of the addict to be exposed to sex addiction. In fact the odds are very high as the sex has to involve the partner. One problem can be that it is the spouse that can solve the addiction as it is matter of sex. A lot of people are sex addicted secretly and live with that as it is the most private thing.

One mistake that the sex addicts do not realize is that they regard themselves to be only having large appetite for sex. In reality most of them think themselves as special. Sex addiction therapy requires a decent and detailed process which should involve the treatment of idea on conscious level.

Sex addiction poses as a massive problem to society and to the family but is not dealt openly and left untouched. One thing I have felt by treating sex addicts is that the therapy differs between genders and that it is only the spouse alone that can cure the addiction.

Sex Addiction Is Serious Disease for Men

Men’s sex Addiction can destroy families and expand into serious social problems. Especially not many addicted men themselves and their wives are aware of the disease. Usually, these men tend to be womanizers. Sadly, these men are very family oriented and well accepted in the communities but they have strong obsession for porno whereas refraining from couple sex. They want to have sex with other women especially in threesome or swapping and in many cases have perverted tastes.

Here are some of the characteristics of men addicted to sex.

- The husband curses and uses violence when the affair is revealed and does not stop the relation
- Sex activities with multiples of women
- Frequent sleep in other places than his home
- Keeps justifying his affair and does not repent
- Asks threesome and swapping to the wife continuously
- Thinks that sex is the happiness of one's life

This all can be interpreted as obsession towards sex and if this is not satisfied, this obsession would become tremendous stress and men tend to release it whatever it takes.

The final stage, the most serious and destructive sex addiction would be to have another man to have sex with his wife and enjoys it to commit rape against any women relatives, his own daughter or unknown. The sex addicts tries whatever the means they to give their wives sexual pleasure and try their best in designing the act of sex. The sex addicts are brilliant in justifying this sex and through sex, they feel strong desire to live and regard sex as the most important factor in happiness. Their day will start with sex and will finish by sex.

One of the characteristics is that the addicts flock together whereas show strong denial towards those who oppose their behaviors. Look at the people around them. In some way, human relation has to do with sexual pleasure. Those couples who practice swapping are already in a serious sex addict condition. Both the husband and the wife are addicted. They admire sex and will justify their action until the destruction is on the way.

In some cases, husband shows drastic measures to their wives who oppose and controls their sex behaviors. In this case the idea of family and wife has been substituted with idea of sex. His friends and enemies are classified by the standard of his sex.

Thus, sex addiction of a man is a dreadful disease. A lot of husbands who are having an affair, shows symptoms of initial stage of sex addiction and if left untreated, there will be destruction in the end. Sex addiction has to be treated. However, it is a stark reality that there is no specialized authority who treat this. In fact, Sex addition is not regarded as important as other family or social issues.

For clients whose husband's affair cause is sex addition, the solution has to be designed differently. If the sex addition of the husband is not treated, it cannot be a solution.

In an affair problem where the husband shows sex addiction, followings are the general stages of treatment

1. Rage therapy for wife
2. Psychological calmness of the wife and understanding
and learning to cope with the husband sex addiction
3. Mind therapy of the wife and recovering the self-pride
4. Changes of wife in and out
5. Sex addiction therapy for husband and changes in husband
6. Recovering new couple sex relation
7. Couple Happiness.

Step 2, 5 and 6 is to treat husband's sex addiction.

Sex addiction therapy should be designed carefully otherwise the addiction might grow larger. Sex addiction of the husband must be treated otherwise it will lead to the destruction of the wife and the children, and family.

To The Woman Who Thinks Affair Is Love

When it comes to affair, man and woman differs. For example, a girl in their teens or before marriage imagines a pure love in which a prince riding on a white horse exist. This continues to be so even after marriage. A woman do believe that her husband truly loves her and absolutely believes him and do not even think about affair herself.

A woman thinks that an affair is absolutely bad and that it is something that a prostitute do. This very woman, once in an affair relation, would praise the affair and even goes as far as saying that the extramarital relation is true love. She would not even go for one night stand saying "Isn't affair everywhere?" People do change according to their situation and surroundings and their mind and thoughts also change together with their lives.

What do the woman who had had an affair? She would point fingers to the situation that she had been. A woman who broke up in an affair would say men are all bad. There is no love. She would turn to one night stand. A woman who broke up but believes that it was a true love. She feels guilty as she lives with her secrete. She would blame herself. After years of affair done, she would say. It was not a love but a play. Affair is nothing but a thrilling hide and seek. It was just momentary memory.

As time goes by she would say it is the biggest mistake I have made in my life. I have done something terrible to my kinds and my family. I don't even remember it. At the moment of death, she would say it was all useless and meaningless.

Are you having an affair with a man? What you believe as to be a true love will become something useless and meaningless. So go back to your proper place. Of course, for that to happen your husband and children have to be changed.

They need to make a place for you to return first.

Sexless After Forgiving Husband? - Wife Prone To Extramarital Affair!

Husband repenting his fault and asks for forgiveness and wife forgives him. However, this is not a true forgiveness. A true forgiveness is possible when the husband truly understands and acknowledges himself of his mistake and the pain of his wife and when the wife wishes to have some closure to her burden. If there is no forgiveness in its true sense, possibility of other future problems lies within the couple.

Forgiveness only in words will lead to small and frequent quarrels, anger and rage. One tend to think that time will solve the problem and things will be forgotten with it. All these might lead to sexless caused by the husband side.

In such a case, the wife would say "You did so well with her! You can't do with me?" The wife will be very angry and will lose confidence in herself. Especially when the wife wants sex but the husband refuses it, she would feel despised and would think that she would rather die than live like that. As time goes by, it is highly likely that she would have affair in turn.

Isn't is so natural that when one's husband is in an affair, one would think of being in other man's arms? Sexless couple is already a big problem and when the relation turns from bad to worse, this will result in the wife's affair. Today there are many wives who are involved in extramarital affairs and I believe this has a lot to do with being sexless after the husband affair. This is much more serious than one might think.

Therefore, when the husband is forgiven, couple sex has to be recovered. Life does change when the true forgiveness is given. The wife changes. Sex becomes better and as she becomes happy so does her husband. A new life starts for both of them as a synergy effect. They say "sorry" to each other. They wonder why they did not understand each other and the conversation becomes so fulfilling. Such were the words of those who had overcome their spouse's affairs. They say that their true love has been discovered after paying such a big cost. Their lives becomes happier.

If you are wanting to forgive because of the children, it is not a true forgiveness. Sometimes forgiveness out of wish to ease the burden will bring gratitude from others. So forgive truly and don't think that time will do everything.

Affair and Sex - Both Serious Couple Problems

Affair and Sex problems are serious couple matter. When left untreated, continuous extramarital affair will happen. Even if this tragic incident has not arrived yet, there may be troubles between the couple and the lives of the couple cannot be happy.

It is necessary for the couples to understand sex properly, setup a correct idea about it and enjoy and lead mutually. Such solutions to these problems cannot be delayed nor can it be found in internet or in books. Each couple has their own uniqueness.

Therefore, a suitable solution has to be sought. We even say it is even harmful to follow up information because of this uniqueness. Sex doesn't only mean bodily pleasure. Such sex results in unhappy consequences. Sex has to be accompanied by mental pleasure, sense of happiness, love and care. It makes what life beautiful and happy. Are you troubled by affair problems?

Are you troubled by couple sex problems? Do not hesitate to go for a session. Do not give up the solution. Do not give up your happiness and of your spouse's. Counseling is an investment for your happiness, a trespass. We do not only provide you normal sessions. We provide mentoring as well. Do not waste your time thinking and making efforts that do not work. You need an expert counselor on this.

Is Affair Sex Romantic, a Love?

Extramarital Affair is not of something uncommon anymore. It is seen easily everywhere. Furthermore, as woman gets more involved in social activities, affair is also seen in woman in their 30 and 40's. Affair sex seems more romantic as it is hidden and secretive. Some claims that "Affair is Love" others say "Affair is a crime of Adultery," “I met him at the workplace. He was married and I was to be married to my fiance. I just had crush on him. He was the man I dreamed of but he was married and I had to get married with feelings for him inside my heart. I could not resist and I came to wait desperately for spending time with him. I had no time to feel sorry for my fiance and we became close.”

It became an affair. We loved each other cheating each other's spouses. I always struggled between the reality and desire. We were living a life with our spouses but were having sex with each other. It's been already four years now and I have tried so many times to stop this but it is impossible. What should I do now?"

In South Korea, Affair is defined as Crime of Adultery by law under certain circumstances. There are rigorous disputes as to abolish Adultery Law. In other countries the cases is dealt differently. Is love after marriage a true love? Or is it just another flare of desire? The answer is if you are cheating, it is love but if you are cheated it is an affair. Man and woman shows different tendencies when it comes to affair matters. When asked of experience of affair, almost half of the married man said affirmative. On the other hand woman replied nay to themselves but said that almost half of them knew a woman who had an affair.

Affair counterpart is rather of an age but man preferred younger woman and woman older man. Man would find woman through internet chatting sites but woman found man at the workplace or near her.

Affair sex is more thrilling as it is more private and secretive. When asked about the action to take when the affair is revealed, most of the replies chose to be flexible. Only 10% answered "divorce." Other answers were like, to see how it revolves and to forgive if it is the first time. Extramarital affair can be everywhere but still fidelity matters for married couples. The importance of the mutual trust really matters these days.

Paraphilia (Abnormal Sex Desire) of The Cheated - Dangerous and Serious

During my session, we tell our clients that abnormal desire for sex in the cheated is a dangerous and serious problem. Disregarding this might bring a serious problem in life in the future. Paraphilia is an abnormal sex desire mainly caused by the shock from extramarital affair. Rage comes from an affair shock together with the sense of betrayal. As an affair results from the sex problem, body and mind is already caught in an abnormal sex desire. The stress, shock and the rage and all of these are so enormous that one does not recognize this disorder. Desire for sex increases dramatically without one's noticing due to senses of disappointment, rage, jealousy, competition and revenge etc.

This disorder shows differently in each case. Some would experience it right after exposure, others during the severe conflict and pain or even after all the problem is solved (including a divorce).

Symptoms of paraphilia is.
- Continuous request for sex. Doubt and rage occurs when sex is denied.
  Feels relieved when sex is done.
- Obsessed with sex
- Changes in sexual partner as a revenge.
- Excessive masturbation and sense of relief after it.
- Seeking a sex partner and others.

This symptoms are common in both the husbands and wives. The remedy should be mental and psychological. However, in most of the cases, solutions are found sexually which will bring more problems. For those divorced because of espousal betrayal, these symptoms are common. This also is due to the hurt and psychological pain thus this be treated accordingly.

The problem here is that having sex seems to bring happiness but it will prove to be not enough and will require more sexual relationship. In fact, sex will become no longer pleasing and happiness and pleasure will be depleted and the person involved would become more and more desolate. Now, what is the right treatment?

It requires psychological hurt treatment. Rage, sense of betrayal, pride and self-esteem issues, all of these have to be treated. Only then a calm mind and true pleasure and happiness will come.

Is your spouse hurt because of your betrayal? Or is it the opposite case? You should understand that psychological hurt and paraphilia is in order and that they need to be treated. Paraphilia is not to be disregarded. Psychological hurt is critical. They need to be treated seriously.

 

Affair Results From Ignorance Of Sex

Contemporary men refer extramarital sex as "crave for the new one". The women that you had intercourse with is already "the old one", therefore new ones seem more attractive. What an idea to explain an extramarital affair!

However, it seems quite likely. Then does this mean that the women who has extramarital sex, have the same idea? They "Crave for the new one" because "the Old ones are old?" To this idea, men would turn speechless. An ox can mate with a cow several times a day each time with a new one. Such are the examples men would refer to reason their extramarital affair. However, they are reluctant to give an example on the opposite case.

Women in an affair relation think just like their male counterparts. In fact there are more reasons as to why a married woman has extramarital sex. Her husband might not please her sexually, only concentrate on his ejaculation and imitate his orgasm, which would lessen his attractiveness as a man. As such, one can name endless reasoning as to the extramarital affair. Anyhow, men claim that they do not feel like having sex with the ones that they had sex with.

Truth of the fact is that for one, those women are not interested enough or that those women do not show interest in their sexual relationship. Even though the sexual relationship is interesting, it will be same thing repeating over and over again. All these are in fact, proofs that men do not know sex at all. They are giving excuses and blaming women but these prove their sexual ignorance. If you look in to this "new ones better" theory, you would find how men do not know about sex. They are not attracted by "old women" and that leads to men's lessened interest and they need in turn, "new ones" who does not know about them yet. If "the old women" does not feel attracted, that means that the men are not physically attractive enough to excite her. To her, He is also "the Old one". He would be lacking sex knowledge to please "the old one". There is no variety and there is only one kind of pleasure. This would be boring in the end for both the couple. The idea of meeting a "new one" will excite a man. This would excite him mentally and this adds to his pleasure even though he is showing same technique.

When a woman is at her highest, changes in her vagina will give her male counterpart mysterious pleasure. Most of the men who have affair, do not know how to be at this level. He would only focus on his ejaculation. Neither can he feel this level of pleasure from the "new one" because he does not know how to practice this. In other words, the same thing will happen with the "new one" becoming just another "old one" we dare say, those who are involved in an extramarital sex prove themselves to be in struggle to seek for the pleasure that they once had in their honeymoon period.

Without mental arousal, sex will turn boring. If you are involved in an extramarital sex. It is proving yourself that you have no technique. If you have good technique, you don't need to find for a "new one" because you will feel the real pleasure of the body and of the mind, something that you will never find with a "new one". This requires a long and increasing bodily pleasure incomparable to the instant short orgasm that you have with your adulteress. This would allow a new pleasure each time. Therefore an affair is a disease from ignorance of Sex.

Affair Sex - Mistaken Love

From years of our counseling, it is easy to find that most of the cheating spouse consider sex with adulteress/adulterer as love. They say that they love her/him. This tendency can be interpreted that the cheating spouse is not aware of true love and outrageously believe his/her sex as love. This is similar in both cases regardless of husband or wife's cheating. If you look into various books and articles about love, it is easy to find love is approached differently according to the gender of the writer. As a specialist of affair problems, these approaches are wrong. It is deplorable when an affair problem occur, people would reach for these misleading books and information.

Affair sex is taken as love mostly because they do not realize how pleasing and important couple sex is. When they find a pleasure different from their spouse's, they would feel it as love.

However, if you look closely into affair sex, you will find that it is meaningless and false and that if the adulteress/adulterer takes advantage of it, the result might be serious.

1. Most of the cases affair happens when the couple sex is not pleasing. Instinct will require for the need to find a partner to solve the sexual desire. This is why affair sex is felt stronger and more pleasing. In this case, when the couple sex is pleasing and the relation gets recovered, there will be no need to have an affair.

2. Affair is considered as love because of the feeling of good communication and mutual understanding. When any sex relation (affair or normal couple) is pleasing and happy, communication will become better and any matter can be discussed and both party will eventually feel happiness.

In other words, if there is problem in couple communication and lack of mutual understanding exists, it can in fact reflect that couple sex is not pleasing. Therefore communication and mutual understanding in the case of affair is ONLY a minor and subordinate role for having a sex. It is important to understand that good communication and mutual understanding has nothing to do with love.

3. Affair is considered as love because of the feeling of care.

This also is a way to have a pleasing sex. Care will naturally bring sex. If couple sex is pleasing, mutual care will arouse. It is so natural. This is not so only in affair relation. In other words, affair finds a niche in a marriage and will find its place and makes one feel false love.

In conclusion, as affair sex aggravates, less the pleasure of couple sex. This will induce good communication, sense of mutual understanding and care and happiness, which will in turn make the cheating spouse to feel falsely in love. On the other hand, the cheating spouse will feel his/her spouse as tiring and difficult to deal with. This happens because the cheating spouse is not aware that only pleasure from sex is making him/her to be into misleading sense of love.

Then, what is True Love? Love relies on mutual trust, responsibility and duty. Love does not hurt each other. Love brings mutual understanding and care and to sets a mutual goal in life.

The answer is therefor, "Affair Relationship = Sex Partner." Affair relation is only sex partner relationship and it is can never be and is not Love. However, affair makes one to misunderstand sex partnership as love. We wish that now, no one would take affair relation as love. Thinking pleasure from sex is love is a perverted self-reasoning and it will only lead a person into a complete destruction.

Cheated Wife's Paraphilia (Abnormal Sex Desire)

A husband's affair might bring drastic changes in couple's sex life. In fact, affair problem is sex problem, therefore couple's sexual behavior change is necessary in order to lead a happy couple life. Especially, paraphilia is a symptom when hurt mind focuses on sex and if not properly dealt with, it will lead into a worsened situation.

Now, let's consider wife's abnormal sex desire in the case of husband affair. In most of the cases, a wife tends to be passive or not interested in sex. However, an abnormal sex desire occurs because of the fact that her husband has enjoyed sex with another woman.

As a countermeasure, a wife would ask for active sex and tries to have joy in the sex with the husband. She will find different ways together with her husband an only after sex, will she feel relaxed and comfortable. Of course, the frequency of the sex is increased as this would repeat itself.

As for the husband, he complies with her because he is sorry or he feels guilty and in some extent, will feel joyful. However, he is not be passionate nor aggressive as this sex is already familiar to him. When this happens compared to wife who is trying to have pleasing sex, husband will be passive and soon wife will find the sex with her husband is not interesting or not pleasing, which in turn, she might be looking for another to fulfill her sex desire. Or the opposite might happen where the husband will find the sex dull and will repeat affair again.

In conclusion, if the wife's paraphilia is left untreated, either or both the husband and wife will have affairs. This will bring the ultimate chaos and a disaster. So to prevent this the wife has to acknowledge that her sex desire is wrong and has to understand sex properly. The wife has to reform her mind and body to feel the pleasure of sex and to learn how to enjoy sex, lead the husband and to feel the orgasm. In addition she has to treat her psychological hurt and to recover happy couple life. In this way, the husband and wife can only live a happy life - sharing, caring and passionate.

Husband has to know that the wife has abnormal sex desire. He has to try for her

sexual pleasure and orgasm. Also he has to try to treat her psychological hurt.

Husband has to make a change so that they can be happy and enjoy sex, ask for forgiveness sincerely and in the end to lead a happy couple life. Both the husband and the wife has to make effort. Otherwise, difficult times will come again. Changes from both the husband and the wife is a Must to recover form affair and to prevent further catastrophes.