Still Doubtful After The Affair Is Solved?

When one has an affair, the spouse expresses sense of betrayal and rage but inside feels depressed and shamed. Even if the spouse has finished his/her affair and one tends to think that the affair problem is solved but in reality depression and shame bring loss of confidence and healthy judgement. This causes continual doubt within the mind. This is why fight and arguments continue even after the affair is settled.

Same question is asked and this will make the situation even more troublesome. The betrayed would even go as to think of ending his/her life. The problem here is that the spouse does not understand the burden the cheated goes under.

Why is this happening? Well, punch yourself. You feel pain. Now punch your spouse. Your spouse will feel pain and by looking at your spouse you would think “well, that might hurt.” But you do not feel the same pain of the other person. Likewise, your spouse might understand that you are feeling painful but do not exactly know how much that pain is or do not feel the same pain and hurt.

Pain and troubles are the cheated spouse’s problem only and not of the spouse who had an affair. After forgiveness is granted, the cheated would continuously ask questions to which he/she have already have answered. When the answer that the cheated want is not given, there would be fight and rage again.

When this situation is repeated, the cheating spouse would not stand the situation any more and even with his or her own fault, they would ask for a divorce. Then how would you know that the spouse has completely finished the affair and turn to proper marriage relation again? People can be deceived and lies can cover the truth. Facial expressions and actions can be devised. There is one thing that cannot be deceived. Your body and the act of sex. When the wife has cheated, she would be more aggressive and would feel orgasm and will feel more comfortable. It can be interpreted that she is feeling happy and is now devoted to her husband again.

In the case of husband affair he is now showing interest in having sex with his wife whereas he had been almost sexless before. This means that he is feeling happy and that he is completely in the relationship with his wife. As such, when the sex with the spouse feels happy, comfortable and natural, it means that the cheating spouse is back and has finished the foul relation. The hard evidence that the cheating is not cheating anymore is the body and the sex. If you have this evidence, throw away your doubt.