Consolation can lead women to sex

A man comforts a woman when she is hurting and the woman perceives his consolation as his love for her and yearns for having sex with the man who comforted her. She ends up having sex with that man simply because she thinks he love her. At this moment his sexual urge gets stirred up. This is how a romantic relation begins. The problem here is that a wife, a woman, through many years of marriage hurts and pain have been accumulated within her mind and to make it worse she even became extremely angry due to her husband’s affair.  

She is filled with deep anger and hurts. At this moment if any man other than her husband touches her wound and comforts her, she feels as if that man loves her and take that consolation as love.

This is how we can see among many wives’ affairs that hurts and pain being accumulated within her mind. She gets hurt then naturally she will want to be comforted by her partner, ideally her husband, however if her husband couldn’t comfort her for some reason, then she will want to be comforted by any man unconsciously. When she gets it from another man, she will naturally think that he truly cares for her and even loves her. Therefore if your wife is having an affair her spouse must remember first of all that she has too much hurt and pain within her. She will potentially fall into another man’s comfort and possibly end up having sex with him.

For wives that are having an affair with other man, they must be aware that they are having sex with the adulterer because you feel that they love you but they don’t!  This can be a vicious cycle and counter-cheating is so prevalent causing a domino effect. This is why affair, divorce and other related crimes such as hatred murder are increasing.

For a woman, sex and love are closely linked. This is why men do not gear for sex immediately when meeting women. He knows by his own instinct that he has to grab her attention first way before he can have sex with her. For a woman to have a sex with a man, first and foremost she must have a feeling of love within her mind. But this can be a whole different story when she is deeply wounded within her heart. The bigger the hurt more painful she becomes. More painful she becomes then much more she yearns for comfort and consolation. This is embedded in her instinct. If it is such a small hurt and manageable it can be easily overcome with her own reasoning and understanding.

If she experiences such hurt and pain for the first time and never received any consolation or comfort for her pain, she will tend to hide her own hurt. This can cause such damage for a woman. This can lead a woman to having an unhealthy sex life through which she end up accumulating more hurt within herself.

Where there are more pain and hurts more consolation is required. If there is no comfort she keeps on having romantic relationships and meaningless sex. She would even go as far as being obsessed with sex just to feel loved.

Affair Psychology Hypothesis
When a woman gets hurt by a man and based on her own instinct, she wants to get comforted. When consoled by a man, she feels comfortable as if she is in love. After her mind is consoled, she thinks that love is sex.

A woman is hurt from betrayal, husband’s affair, repeated break up’s, violent words and actions from male partner, being looked down and others. Woman gets hurt regardless of marital status. However, man does not think of this as grave matter and tend to think they have not hurt woman. Woman in turn do not realize this even though massive hurt is already formed. This is why a woman does not recognize that she is hurt in daily lives.

The problem here is that the hurt from her spouse is piled up and gets deeper and eventually these hurts will distort her mind. Deep hurt brings longing for comfort, a consolation. When comforted, she feels relaxed and feeling deepens into a feeling of love. The comfort, dependency and consolation are taken as love. She wants more sex because she wants to confirm she is loved. As this goes on, her mistaken feelings of love gets stronger and so does her bodily pleasure and sex. Normally, sex for woman comes from the feeling of love within her mind and she wants to have sex to solidify her love. For her, bodily pleasure or orgasm is not important. She wants confirmation in her mind, a feeling of love. This is a love that harmonizes her body and mind. This is the true love for a woman. Unfortunately, for a woman with deep hurts takes comfort, dependency and consolation as love and seeks for bodily pleasure and orgasm. This is not a harmonized love of body and mind. It only has sexual pleasure and consolation for the hurt mind. If you are a woman and have hurt from a man (husband), you are having sex to be consoled. If you are having an affair now, please do read this carefully. If you are a man, you need to look in to your wife’s heart and see her hurt. If you are having an affair, do remember that she might turn an adulteress for another man because of hurt caused by her husband’s affair.

“You cannot have it all. When one is gained and the other can be lost“

What is more valuable to you? Making a wise choice will lead you to a happier life.