Why Are There Couple Problems?

Love is in fact abstract and has no form. It is not tangible like a tele or a book. In this sense when someone says "I love you" it actually means different things according to each personal feelings. It can be feeling of sympathy, warm heart, kindness, physical feature or even being humorous. Feeling of love is different from people to people. Some would conceive kindness as degree of 5 out of 10 whereas others might take it at the level of 8.

Love differs between man and woman. Man is attracted by the outlook, the figure, cuteness whereas the woman would find love from care, consideration or social status. This means that man's love is from physical condition – sex and woman from relation- mind. Having this in mind, it is useless to dispute whether which love is true or not. This is because even if a woman has true love, the man she loves has different love.

Passion is a requirement for feeling of love but it has its expiration date. In this sense, these kind of love is only valid until the moment of marriage. After marriage, sex trouble might occur. Wife would want her husband to hold her but the husband would not want this. What makes couple work is on the bases is sex. The different love when conflicts, will provide the starting point of unhappiness whereas when overcame, happiness.

Sexless couple in itself is already unhappy and if this goes on, it is highly likely that one of the spouse will have an affair. I would like to put it this way. If one of the couple insist his or her love, it will lead to unhappiness. Couple happiness depends on harmony in sex which in itself has the different desire of love of man and woman. This is why sex is at the core of couple problems. When counseling couples usually say they have no sex problem but this not true.