Cannot Trust Your Husband Any More?

Even though the husband claims that he has finished the foul relation, he still continues that relation and lie. Wife naturally cannot trust her husband and will suffer even more from sense of betrayal and being cheated repeatedly. This will result in frequent disputes and quarrels, even physical fights. The pains and suffering aggravates. When the husband has really finished his affair, the wife cannot believe him anymore. Then the vicious circle of dispute and doubt will continue.

This Biggest Problem here is that both the couple has thought that everything will turn to normal once the affair is cut off. However, in reality it is not true. There must be a reason why he cheated which has to be analyzed and found out. Both the couple should have tried to solve this and the hurt and pain of the wife should be treated. Otherwise the wife cannot overcome the situation and forgive the husband.

Even though the wife tries, it is quite difficult to hold the feelings of disbelief and betrayal. Stressed, the husband will again find his pleasure and comfort outside - another affair. Communication turns impossible as the couple has different ideas and again will lead to worsened couple problem.

The wife would find sex not pleasing, will be sensitive to normal things, linking them to his affair. When things related affair - like TV programs - comes up, the husband will leave the place to avoid it. The wife might cannot help spitting out her unpleased feelings even if she wants to hold it.

All this in the end, will let the husband to leave the house and find more comfort outside, providing a reason for him to have another affair. The couple will turn sexless and overtime the wife will be depressed and will find the marriage meaningless. Couple relation will be nothing but pain and trouble. The future will seem dark.

All these results from the belief that the problem can be solved by the couple themselves alone. Truth of the reality is that it cannot be solved this way. This is a problem that needs a third eye, a help a counselor. From decades of our counseling experience, wife continues to doubt about the husband which will lead to continuous dispute and the couple will get exhausted in the relation.

Counseling is Absolutely Necessary.

Pains and hurt has to be treated, ideas has to be changed and what-to-do should be clarified.  This is the ONLY way to go back to normal or even happier life. Extramarital affair has to be solved through counselling alone. The couples should know that this is the problem that cannot be solved by themselves. Until the couple problem is completely solved, the wife should not dispute or doubt or feel stressed and has to find the solution through counselling.