Many husbands are appealing that their wives are still bothering them even though they have cut off their extramarital relationships. This is a very usual case than one might think and it is also very common that many couples try to solve their problems on their own.
Why is it still too difficult to be reunited
with your wife when the husband thinks that everything is settled?
1. Your spouse especially your wife is emotionally healed.
Your affair may have all stopped yet the rage, hurt and the sense of betrayal still exist with your spouse. In most cases, the couples think that everything will turn our normal once the wrong relation is cut off. However, this is not true because rage, hurt and the sense of betrayal causes troubles. These psychological damages do not heal easily. The wife automatically would recall the affair experience in the course of expressing love through her expression and conversation on a daily basis. In addition, the wife tends to doubt the husband even more and this will make the husband even more stressful. This will cause less conversation between the couple and the husband will become more cautious in his actions and words. Also any affair regarding news or other information will make the spouse sensitive toward the spouse. The affair is over but the aftermath is still there.
1. Your spouse especially your wife is emotionally healed.
Your affair may have all stopped yet the rage, hurt and the sense of betrayal still exist with your spouse. In most cases, the couples think that everything will turn our normal once the wrong relation is cut off. However, this is not true because rage, hurt and the sense of betrayal causes troubles. These psychological damages do not heal easily. The wife automatically would recall the affair experience in the course of expressing love through her expression and conversation on a daily basis. In addition, the wife tends to doubt the husband even more and this will make the husband even more stressful. This will cause less conversation between the couple and the husband will become more cautious in his actions and words. Also any affair regarding news or other information will make the spouse sensitive toward the spouse. The affair is over but the aftermath is still there.
2. The husband still feels guilty and blames
himself.
Because of the fact that he had made a big mistake,
the husband tends to try his best in pleasing the wife and the children
intentionally. This, in the eyes of the wife may be seen as awkward and
uncomfortable. The husband feels that he has lost the confidence as being a
father and a husband. The affair has stopped but there is issue of recovery of
trust to be regained between the couple. He would feel more stressed as he has
no ability to say his claims. In this case, the couple has to get consult for
recovery of the couple’s relationship. In any case,
the husband who had the affair and the wife who has psychological damages have
to be consulted and treated so that the relation can be renewed and recovered.
This will bring a couple happiness again.
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