Rage Has To Be Treated Before Feeling Happy & Comfortable

In the event of marital affair, the cheating tends to give reasons or deny the fact. The cheated in turn becomes even more suspicious and increases the sense of betrayal. This will bring continuous quarrels and fights between the couple and eventually both the couple will be psychologically hurt and exhausted.

When this severe situation is repeated, the couple will not be able to stand the situation and sometimes the cheating (not the cheated) demands divorce. Usually the couples try to solve their problems by themselves as they have thought that they could solve their problem without outside help. As a result all the efforts they have made prove to have brought more pains and hurts.

From the sessions, we have found in a lot of cases that the clients feel more raged as the cheating spouse give reasons and even blame the cheated for the cause of affair rather than repenting his or her faults. The cheating even goes as far as treating the cheated as paranoid. At this time, it has to be considered whether the counseling be done to both the couple but in fact, it is better that the wife alone sit for the counseling.

If, in this case, both the couple come for counsel, it looks as if the cheated might forgive the cheating spouse when he or she repents and asks for forgiveness. However, in reality this is not so and I have seen so many of these cases. The cheated in reality tend to rage even more and say that such thing as counseling is not necessary and that they need a divorce. It is a shocking reality, something that is commonly seen in an affair counselling. Therefore, it is necessary that the cheated should be treated before anything when the cheated is denying his or her misdeeds.

It is not too late that both the couple be treated after the rage of the cheated is treated. This will lead to a true new couple relation and a changed and happy couple life. In an affair problem, the raged wants to be relieved, feel psychologically comfortable or dream one’s own life. In such an effort to be away form anger, the cheated tends to choose a divorce, seek a revenge (counter-cheating) or to pursue a separate happy life. These actions or countermeasures look convenient at first sight and brings mistaken happiness. It should be noted that these are not true happiness or comfort. Soon, one will find that he or she is living a life that is not a proper life and is getting hurt even deeper. This is a result from not solving an affair problem that is totally different form a general couple problem. It should be stressed that the rage is treated regardless of getting a divorce or not.

If you really want to be relieved and be happy, you need to have your rage treated. It is extremely important. A stabilized mind, an ability to see the cheating spouse with an objective eye, setting a strong mind, establishment of pride and self-esteem and independence from the cheated, all these will lead to a true comfort and happiness.

There is a proper step in solving an affair problem. When this is not followed strictly, the matters will get worse.